Instincts

Courtney Gordon

   eHarmony, Zoosk, Match, Plentyoffish, Chemistry, Perfectmatch, and many more dating web sites are out there to pull us in, take our money, and hope that we meet someone special so that they can take the credit.
"Little Pink Book of Dating," "The Dirt on Dating," "Undressed: The Naked Truth about Love, Sex, and Dating," "The Ten Commandments of Dating," "No-Nonsense Dating," Preparing Your Child for Dating," and "Divorced, Desperate and Dating" are just a few of the books surrounding us that are giving us advice on how to date and yet they all have different advice. My conclusion? Stop looking for the easy solution to dating, or an excuse to be single, or whatever it is that you're looking for when you use the previous resources and start listening to yourself. The best way to find the right person for you is to learn to be happy with being single; the best way to do that is to stop looking and just have fun with life.

  There will always be someone or some source that is chomping at the bit to give you advice but getting advice from 20 different sources on how you should live your life just doesn't make any sense at all. Most of the advice that people or sources give to you are just common sense and/or something that your instincts told you in the first place; many people just want to hear it from a second source so that they have more faith in their own decisions (even if it's only subconsciously). Another thing I've noticed is the people who are generally good at giving advice to others are the ones who have screwed up in their own lives and are passing on the knowledge. This should tell you from common sense that the best way to figure out what's best for you is through trial and error; be heartbroken, make bad decisions, but most of all just live life. The greatest way to learn is to make the mistakes yourself because you really don't know what it feels like to have a broken heart or make mistakes unless you experience it yourself.

   So this week your challenge is to trust your instincts; try being a little more spontaneous and you may surprise yourself with what you're capable of. If you're single, no worries, he/she will come along when the time is right and when you least expect it. If you're not single, well, let's save that for next week.